Today in relief society we had a wonderful lesson over regrets. It's been a long time since I have really been deeply engrossed in a lesson but it was just something I needed to hear. Connie gave some tips to lesson the amount of regrets will have by:
1. Spending more time with the people we love.
I've always been sort of a homebody and I like to just sit out in my room and read or sleep. I've been struggling with really bonding and talking to people lately. After all it's the people you love the most who really hurt you, so maybe I've distanced myself so I wouldn't get hurt anymore. I've realized where there is the most pain there is also the most joy in life too. I often wonder what my reaction would be if I lost someone to death I truly love... I wouldn't want to regret not spending enough time with them.
2. LAUGH AND SMILE
Oddly enough I've never had a problem with this one. I just laugh at everything it's almost a bad habit. I'm surprised I still have friends actually. "Oh the test was really hard." "Haha, oh good!" ...that doesn't work. I've often tried to stop laughing at EVERYTHING but I can't help but be happy around people. I guess I really do love being around people...which is why I HATE it when I lose someone that I really had a bond with. It's probably the worst feeling in the world when someone you've put into your "love circle" and they leave. WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT TO A PERSON? It takes a good few years to get over it if you ever do. Actually, I don't ever really think you heal from losing someone you love; they wounds are covered by scars but they never really go away. ANYWAY, now that I've got off on a tangent, smile :)
3. Don't be so busy.
Okay guys, life has a lot of opportunities but you don't have to be musical, sporty, and academic. I feel like it's more important to just love life and take one step at a time. You'll miss a lot of little opportunities to care for someone if you're rush, rush, rush all the time.
In short, regrets are a hard thing. I regret arguments with a best friend which has broken us. I regret not talking to someone who was new and lonely on a field trip. I regret not going to serve someone and had my own plans. I regret wasting so much time worrying about a relationship that ultimately only made me suffer. I regret not spending the amount of time with my little brother that I should have being so many years apart. I regret not actively continuing my music, and not taking dance or singing lessons.
...but with all these regrets I can learn to not make these mistakes again. Love people, no matter what. Don't argue over something that doesn't matter. Is it worth the happiness they bring you? If I want to do it, I'm going to do it then. No waiting, after all YOLO right?! ;)
